Polyamory is the practice of having romantic relationships with multiple partners simultaneously, with the consent of all involved. Attachment styles refer to the ways in which individuals relate to others in close relationships, and can include secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles. Research has found that people with secure attachment styles may be more likely to engage in successful polyamorous relationships, as they are more comfortable with intimacy and trust. However, people with different attachment styles can also learn to navigate polyamorous relationships with open communication and healthy boundaries.
Because being in a polyamorous relationship requires open and transparent communication people, it can be a challenge to people who have an insecure attachment style and set off all kinds of alarm bells. The good news is that polyamory can also help you move towards a more secure attachment style too! If you’re in a relationship with multiples and are struggling you can use the following prompts to journal about your experience. How do you experience each of these topics in your relationship, what feelings arise in your body, and what meaning do you attach to these feelings? The more you allow yourself to explore what arises with curiosity and compassion the more comfortable you may become with being vulnerable both to yourself and others. Give it a try!
Clearly define and communicate your boundaries: Be open and honest with your partners about what you are and aren’t comfortable with.
Be respectful of your partners’ boundaries: Just as you expect your partners to respect yours, it is important to do the same for them.
Practice open communication: Regularly check in with your partners about how you’re feeling and be willing to listen to their thoughts and concerns.
Prioritize honesty: Being honest and transparent with your partners is crucial in building trust and fostering healthy relationships.
Respect your partners’ relationships: Remember that your partners have relationships with other people, and it is important to respect their time and commitment to those relationships.
Take time for self-reflection: It is important to understand your own needs and desires, as well as how they may change over time.
Be open to change: Polyamorous relationships can be complex and may change over time, so it is important to be open to adjusting your boundaries and needs as needed.
Seek support: If you need help navigating a polyamorous relationship, consider seeking out a therapist or counselor who is experienced in working with polyamorous individuals and couples.
